It is very hard to maintain autonomy over your life if you weren’t financially independent, and this is especially true for women. While all of us achieve this differently, women tend to have extra challenges along the way. In order for you, ladies, to achieve financial independence, here are some pieces of advice that should help you look at things from a different perspective:
No One is Coming, Be Independent Women
It is time that you realize you can’t keep depending on others for money. You are capable of supporting yourself! It is not going to be easy and it’ll likely be gradual rather than sudden. People who are helping you now will still do the same along the way. That may not last forever. The American singer and songwriter, Judy Collins, once said, “As women, we are raised to have rescue fantasies, and I am here to tell you: no one is coming”.
No charming man on a white horse is going to show up to your doorstep and offer you the world. Truth hurts, but it’s necessary to acknowledge. So, empower yourself and become the financially independent woman we all know you can be!
Don’t Be Afraid to Take Risks
From such a young age, most girls are treated as tender objects and every move they take should be thoroughly planned out. This overprotective behavior often leaves these girls feeling needy for constant support. This is not only harmful to the character development of young girls, but also makes them lose joy and trust in the world. Ladies, you should have faith in yourself and take the risks that could be critical to your career growth. First and foremost, do your research and everything you are capable of to make it work. Then, be prepared for all possible outcomes. Never be afraid to chase after your dreams.
What you are doing is not easy, that is for sure, and it is likely to get quite hard the more responsibilities you hold. However, this isn’t something to fear. On the contrary, the hardships you will face are a sign that you’re not dependent anymore and will make you feel accomplished. You have to keep going, because what you are working for is worth the wait and the struggle. At the end of the day, life is tough, but you are tougher.
Don’t Be Too Hard On Yourself
Remember that you are doing everything within your power to make this happen. With everything taken into consideration, we only have little control over what happens around us. However, what we do have control over is our reaction. We should always try to look at the world through a positive lens and be forgiving to ourselves.
Many of us women were raised to search for their savior, typically a man, who will meet all your expectations and leave you in no need for anything or anyone else. Well, the myth is not as sweet or attainable as it sounds. Next time you are told that you cannot possibly do all of this by yourself or that you should depend on someone else or do your most to marry a rich man, do all of us girls a favor, pull a Cher and tell them, “Mom, I am a rich man.”